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Meet Cherise & Devin

Names: Devin and Cherise (West) Ayers
Graduated in: 2001
Number of years married: 13
Current location: Saint Paul, MN

1. Where did you meet?
We were both in Spelman’s education department. The first time we met was at a department reception. The second time we met was during Glee Club mixed rehearsal for the Christmas Carol concert.

2. How did you know he/she was “the one”?
I knew he was the one when we sat and talked for hours and had soooo much in common. I didn’t feel like I had to settle or compromise anything.

3. How did he propose?
We were in his room and he asked me to dance, but there was no music. We were supposed to dance to the music in our heads. In the midst of our dance, he started talking about how much I meant to him and how much he loved me; then he dropped to one knee and popped the question.

4. What do you think are the guidelines for a successful marriage?
Communication, trust, and being on the same page.

5. What makes you such good friends?
We have similar interests and sense of humor. We’re also both teachers.

6. What are your money management tips for newlyweds?
Establish a budget, like a for real budget on a spreadsheet. We pool our money and pay all household bills, including student loans, from a joint account. We give ourselves an “allowance” for fun money and keep those accounts separate.

7. Has your marriage changed since you had children? How?
Yes. Of course we have less “alone time.” We can’t just jump up and go to a movie. We spend a lot of time shuttling kids to activities. We’re also rediscovering the wonders of life (the little things… like flying kites) and having more fun. Everything is new to them. We have 3 kids, ages 10, 7, and 4.

8. Has there been any significant event that has changed your marriage? What was the event? How did it change your relationship?
3 years ago we moved from Atlanta to my hometown of St.Paul, MN. It forced us to make new friendships and explore a semi-new place together. It also opened us up to new opportunities.

9. What are the most important lessons you’ve learned in life as a couple?
Remember why you chose each other in the first place and trust that choice. Have fun together.

10. Where will we be in 10 years? 20 years?
No matter where we are, we’ll be more in love.

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Meet Keeana & Marc

Names: Marc Henry Germain (Morehouse c’98) and Keeana Serene Saxon (Spelman, c’99).
Number of years married: We married on June 28, 2014 at the historic Museum of African-American History. We recently celebrated our first anniversary!
Current location: Boston, Massachusetts.

1. Where did you meet?
We met in 2009 in a social justice leadership training program. We spotted each other right away because there were only a handful of people of color in the room.

2. How did you know you were right for each other?
We knew we were the one for each other pretty soon after we started dating (which was pretty soon after we met), but both had to make sure we were ready to be married. That took a few years and a break-up.

3. How did he propose?
He proposed at the Top of the Hub (http://topofthehub.net/), an upscale restaurant, by having the waitress serve the ring in the middle of a plate of cookies. It took Keeana a while to realize that it was a ring because it was in a dark blue ring box (blueberry cake??). He got down on one knee. She said yes. The crowd applauded while the jazz band dedicated “In a Sentimental Mood” to us. Sweet!

4. What do you think are the guidelines for a successful marriage?
We believe in calm, honest, and forthright communication. We stand in our truths and we respect each other’s perspective. We are both analytical, so we often deconstruct previous conversations and reveal what each other was thinking and feeling at that time. We then offer ways of communicating better in the future. We also try to start each day with prayer. So far, so good.

5. What makes you such good friends?
We enjoy spending time together at home. We also like traveling internationally together. We know each other’s quirks and idiosyncrasies, and don’t mind or try to change them (for the most part ;-)).

6. What are your money management tips for newlyweds?
We are still trying different joint money management techniques. We welcome suggestions! We have learned that we do have slightly different management philosophies, but our overall goals are aligned.

7. Has your marriage changed since you had children?
We are expecting our first child and we are ecstatic!

8. Where will you be in 10 years? 20 years?
In 10-20 years, we hope to have lived and raised our children abroad for a bit of time. We would like our children to be exposed to various cultures and instill in them the sense that the world is truly their oyster.

9. What are your favorite spelhouse memories?
Our memories about Morehouse and Spelman do not include each other, since we met after graduating. The irony is, had Keeana attended at least one of the Massachusetts chapter meetings of which Marc was President, they would have met, as fate would have it…. :-)

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