My Family Goals

Here they are! Hubby  hasn’t finished his yet, so I told him not to read this yet, so here goes:

Family Goals

1. Renew our vows at 25th anniversary and have an awesome reception
2. Organize a Richardson family reunion
3. Design a family coat of arms
4. Publish a family tree that can be passed down
5. Coach a team for one of my kids
6. Create trust funds for my children & grandchildren
7. Build a treehouse for my kids
8. Write letters to my family
9. Give a speech with hubby
10. Decorate our home together
11. Have a healthy daughter
12. Host our children’s college classmates for Thanksgiving
13. Reunite with estranged relatives
14. Teach our children how to golf
15. Generate enough passive income to retire at 50
16. Teach our children to be chaste but not ignorant about sexuality
17. Have children fluent in another language
18. Dialogue consistently again
19. Raise children excited about reading
20. Publish a family annual report (with balance sheets and all!)
21. Let the children manage the family budget
22. Support the Dual-Degree Engineering Program with an annual Victor scholarship
23. Create a charitable Victor Foundation
24. Buy our kids a house
25. Build a family lodge on mom’s land in GA
26. Volunteer with my children annually
27. Witness my grandchildren’s births
28. Pay for grandchildren’s college education
29. Watch hubby escort my daughter in a debutante ball
30. Invest $10k in my children’s passions
31. Complete a project adventure course as a family
32. Raise children who love Christ

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1 Life, 100 Goals

Shaun King, a Morehouse graduate, pastors the Courageous Church, where they are in the middle of a series called 100 Life Goals. Hubby and I listened to the podcasts and created our lists (200 goals total, but many overlap) of goals.

Every year in December I have made a list of the things I want to accomplish for the year, but they are short term goals. These 100 goals are stretch goals. Some are short term, and several are long term and may take a lifetime to complete. Setting these goals requires me to really check my motivation in a lot of areas.

Why am I doing this? Well, since faith is the evidence of things hoped for, I need to write down the things that I hope for. If I don’t have a God-ordained plan for myself, I will follow the plan my job has laid for me, or my spouse or my children have for me, and it won’t be my own plan.

Here is the criteria for my goals:

No over-spiritualized goals. I want my goals to reflect spirituality, but not spell it out. The goals should also demonstrate my discipline and stewardship, be specific, include others, bring me joy and honor God.

Here are the categories:
1) family goals
2) travel goals
3) physical goals
4) experience goals
5) influence goals

I am just putting the finishing touches on my family goals and will share them soon!

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Our MLT

On July 22 the second installment of CNN’s Black in America special aired. The documentary is very dear to my heart because Management Leadership for Tomorrow, one of the four organizations featured, has done sooooo much for us. Hubby and I were introduced to the organization through my mentor at General Mills, and we applied for the MBA Preparation program in 2005. The application process, at the time, was less stringent than it is today, requiring four essays, and a practice GMAT score. Thankfully, we were admitted and commenced the business school application preparation process in March of 2006.

The MBA Prep program consisted of three seminars, where we visited Michigan State’s Broad School of Management, NYU Stern School of Business and UPenn – Wharton. At each seminar we focused on a different aspect of the application. At the first seminar we spent a great deal of time defining our passions and answering key questions about our future, our goals and our career interests. At the second seminar, we fell in love with NYU thanks to JKap and the rest of the admissions  crew. We participated in ‘speed networking,’ very similar to speed dating, but imagine replacing your future mate with a top 20 business school admissions  officer instead. I received great feedback that day which I incorporated into my essays. The third seminar in Philly  helped us to wrap up the loose ends to our answers about ‘Why is now the right time to pursue an MBA?’

Shortly after we submitted our applications, we found out we were expecting. This was great news because just three months prior we experienced our first (of two) miscarriages. I had endometriosis removed in 2003, so I was glad when we were able to conceive again. At the first seminar I was five months pregnant with Amari, and then nine months pregnant at the second seminar in July. I was excited to be going through the process with my husband right there, and the MBAP program had introduced us to 200 new aunties and uncles for Amari

Just six weeks after Amari was born the third seminar was held in Philly. This was perfect for us because we lived fifteen minutes away and did not have to travel by plane with an infant and all the items that come with an infant (i.e. stroller, car seat, bottle warmer, diapers, wipes, thousands of changes of clothes, diapers). By then Hubby’s mom had arrived to help us care for the little one. Her arrival and stay was much needed, as I was still studying for the GMAT. Hubby had knocked out a great score on the first go. He was also way more diligent than I was at studying. Earlier that year, from February through May, we took a GMAT Prep course with Akil at Bell Curves in Manhattan. Hubby came home every night after work and studied for hours, while I studied for about thirty minutes and then found some pregnancy related excuse to go to bed early.

Because I was on maternity leave, it became increasingly easy to attend the Prospective Student events at the schools at which we chose to apply. We attended Explore Wharton, the Duke MBA Workshop and Discover Stern. All three were diversity student events. We saw many MLT faces at these events, which helped us to feel comfortable in the new MBA environment. After we clicked submit on our three applications (we applied to NYU through the Consortium), the interviews began. We traveled back to NYU for Perspectives Weekend. It was easy going to Philly for our Wharton interviews, and we had already interviewed at Duke during the MBA workshop. We submitted all the applications the day they were due. Originally, we planned to submit during the first round deadlines, but once your MLTcoach gives you back your essays with so much feedback to incorporate, even making second rounds was aggressive.

MLT was so great for us because it gave us unique, one on one coaching and feedback. My story was very different from hubby’s, so my application weaknesses were also very different than his. My background was engineering within the consumer packaged goods industry (CPG), and he came from information technology within the financial services industry. I needed to answer the questions “Why did I want to be a brand manager? How did I know this was right for me? Was this a good fit?” I was able to answer these questions and present my concise, yet compelling story of why the business school transition was necessary for my professional goals, and yet beneficial for me and my prospective school. In my essays, I vowed to make the business school environment a better place for student-parents. I held true to these words and enriched the student body population as president and webmaster of the NYU Students with Children Club.

Hubby said the early exposure to the admissions officers and recruiters at target firms was critical to his success. Making points of contact so early in the process helped him figure out where he was weak, while identifying the skills that recruiters sought and honing those skills. I loved the program because it created structure around a nebulous process. I had fire under my tush to be ready to dig deep and study for the GMAT. It was tough finding time while I was still working full-time, and it was even tougher when I had a newborn sleeping on my arm.

At the conclusion of the MBAP program we attended boot camp. It was a week long process, and my mother and father were gracious enough to care for Amari in Minnesota. If you think about the logistics of getting a 10 month old to Minnesota, it meant that my dad flew to New Jersey just to pick him up and carry him back. He said that going through security everyone extended a helping hand because this grandpa was a novice in traveling with an infant.

Being an MLT alumna has been extremely fulfilling for me. This program equipped me with a set of business soft skills that I used throughout my two years at Stern, and since I cannot yet give to the organization financially they way I want to, I give them my time in the form of volunteering. Can you imagine having a step by step how-to guide, a one-on-one coach giving personalized direction, and the power of a 1700+ and growing alumni network at your disposal while you applied to business school?

My favorite aspects of the MBA Preparation program was the emphasis on branding. I knew as a future marketer, that learning about the 4P’s and 3C’s would help me structure a marketing case analysis, but in terms of my personal brand and representing MLT’s brand, that was much more powerful. I actually made time to think about how I am perceived professionally, versus how I see myself and how I want to be received. I had to answer tough questions about what was I really, REALLY passionate about? Did I need an MBA to get there? And if so, was it worth the sacrifice of my time and energy to complete the application process with 200 other people? In some ways MBAP was like being in school again. Monthly coach calls, monthly assignments, practice GMAT exams, essays to write… the list goes on.

Yes, it was absolutely, positively worth it! The relationships with my classmates, other business school peers, school administrators, and corporate recruiters were all initiated through MLT. I even received my full-time job offer through an introduction at an MLT alumni breakfast. I give a full 100% endorsement of the program. It was a wonderful eighteen months, which I will benefit from for probably eighteen years and hopefully longer.

Thank you John, Gwen, Rodney, Martene, Holly and hubby: all of my coaches!

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127 Pounds

After two pregnancies, I am glad to say I am finally getting healthy. I think I gained around 27 or so pounds with Amari, and something similar with Joshy. Most of the weight vanished through breastfeeding, but it definitely redistributed differently.

I am currently motivated to lose weight by my appearance in clothes. I have an expectation of how I will look, and I am disappointed by my reflection, but I am empowered to know that I am changing that. This summer has been awesome for me. I have been burning between 300-500 calories daily on the stairmaster. I have lost 11 pounds since January 1, when I began my weightloss quest with the help of my Wii Fit.

Exercise was not enough to make these changes. I have had to change what I put into my body (although Hubby would say I have more changes to make). I eat oatmeal every morning with strawberries or granola on top. I am chidded for the dollop of whipped cream that I add.  My favorite lunch has become grilled flank steak with onions, green and chile peppers, marinated in a honey-teriyaki sauce, over brown rice. I enjoy most of my meals with water, or my new favorite drink, zero-calorie, did you catch that, ZERO-CALORIE lifewater made by Pepsi.

My goal now is to firm my abs, which have been stretched beyond recognition. I have taken one Pilates class which gave great instruction, but practice makes perfect. I am going to resume Pilates after I start working since I hear I can take a class during lunch at my new job.

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Mommy and Daddy

I am very glad to announce that hubby has accepted his offer. That is a great feeling for me, because now I can narrow my job search to a particular geographic region. Last Thursday I had a mock interview at Stern’s office of career development. Normally, I would have looked forward to the experience, but this time around I was dreading the exchange. For the first time in my life I don’t have a plan. I have always had a plan, and executed it to a tee, but not getting a full-time offer from Kraft was not part of my plan, and now I am starting from scratch.

I am recruiting for the Marketing function, but I have opened up my industry search to include a wide sector of job opportunities. I am looking at consumer packaged goods, financial services and advertising industries. I don’t want to be pulled too thin in my research process, but I honestly don’t know what I really want right now. It’s frustrating and uncomfortable. I am confident that wherever I end up is where I am supposed to be, but the process is so foreign to me.

This experience is more different than ever before because the fundamental of America’s economy are NOT strong. In addition to that, I have two mouths who expect shelter, warmth, love and ever-increasingly-priced food. My heart goes out to all the AIG and Lehman employees who have lost their jobs, their financial security, and control over so many factors in their life. I am blessed by God to be where I am financially, and I do not take it for granted.

Hopefully, as I inspect myself, my motivations, goals, passions and desires and values, I will find clarity as I seek what is the right job for me. Hubby and I have two very important titles which carry so much weight with them. Being Amari and Joshua’s mommy and daddy mean that we fulfill their many unstated expectations daily. I hope that hubby and I are blessed to be able exceed their fundamental needs, and one day spoil them culturally because of our financial state. I hope to take our sons to foreign places, and meet diplomats, and eat different cuisine and expand their global perspectives… Stay tuned…

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