Ironically, the best marriage advice we received was also the most crass and straightforward statement ever given to us. We were at a dear friend’s business school going away party which was also her parent’s wedding anniversary celebration. Hubby and I were going through it at the time. He was working on Wall Street which meant his work day ended after the market closed, after the after-work dinner, after he came home and worked some more, and then he was available to change diapers for our then one and three-year-old boys.
My friend’s parents had been married for a gazillion years and had two grown-up children with kids, so we figured they checked the box on being qualified through years of experience. As we enjoyed finger foods, Hubby casually asked “so what’s the best advice you have for a young couple?” to which we hear, “it’s cheaper to keep her.”
Now, at the time I seriously thought he was joking. Here we were, earnestly seeking sage advice for how to reverse the downhill trend our six-year marriage was on. And yet, he summarized decades of marriage wisdom into one frivolous, albeit, pithy rhyme.
What’s ironic is that it’s actually pretty good advice. His advice centered around the fact hardly anything is worse than divorce. I can’t imagine what that experience is like, but I believe there is a cost to it that’s more than financial. By “cheaper,” we believe it meant to include the emotional, physical, and spiritual ramifications of ending a marriage.
What’s the best marriage advice you ever received?