Names: Devin and Cherise (West) Ayers
Graduated in: 2001
Number of years married: 13
Current location: Saint Paul, MN
1. Where did you meet?
We were both in Spelman’s education department. The first time we met was at a department reception. The second time we met was during Glee Club mixed rehearsal for the Christmas Carol concert.
2. How did you know he/she was “the one”?
I knew he was the one when we sat and talked for hours and had soooo much in common. I didn’t feel like I had to settle or compromise anything.
3. How did he propose?
We were in his room and he asked me to dance, but there was no music. We were supposed to dance to the music in our heads. In the midst of our dance, he started talking about how much I meant to him and how much he loved me; then he dropped to one knee and popped the question.
4. What do you think are the guidelines for a successful marriage?
Communication, trust, and being on the same page.
5. What makes you such good friends?
We have similar interests and sense of humor. We’re also both teachers.
6. What are your money management tips for newlyweds?
Establish a budget, like a for real budget on a spreadsheet. We pool our money and pay all household bills, including student loans, from a joint account. We give ourselves an “allowance” for fun money and keep those accounts separate.
7. Has your marriage changed since you had children? How?
Yes. Of course we have less “alone time.” We can’t just jump up and go to a movie. We spend a lot of time shuttling kids to activities. We’re also rediscovering the wonders of life (the little things… like flying kites) and having more fun. Everything is new to them. We have 3 kids, ages 10, 7, and 4.
8. Has there been any significant event that has changed your marriage? What was the event? How did it change your relationship?
3 years ago we moved from Atlanta to my hometown of St.Paul, MN. It forced us to make new friendships and explore a semi-new place together. It also opened us up to new opportunities.
9. What are the most important lessons you’ve learned in life as a couple?
Remember why you chose each other in the first place and trust that choice. Have fun together.
10. Where will we be in 10 years? 20 years?
No matter where we are, we’ll be more in love.