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Thank You

I haven’t been writing because I have really personal things to write about and didn’t want to share them with the internet. Some things I am embarrassed to admit, some things are too personal, some things are too early to share, and others are just too intimate for your eyes. All I can think about is my career, my marriage, my hair and the relationships in my life.

I have been a pretty flaky friend during the past month, and I definitely have been a flaky wife. Oh, where do I start. I guess I can begin with my best friend unfriending me on Facebook. Our issues began (unbeknownst to me) several years ago, and culminated a few weeks before her wedding. She was a bridesmaid in my wedding, and a dear friend. She said this, and I said that, and then I responded, she apologized, and I took to long to accept her apology (I think) and she unfriended me. That was my signal that I was not to contact her. Now that I’m writing it, it sounds silly that our ‘real life’ friendship would be over because of a broken relationship link on a social networking site. I guess writing this post is much needed therapy. Let’s move on to issue number two.

My job has shifted and a lot has changed, and this is one of the things it’s still too early yo write about. And then there’s marriage. For all you single ladies who yearn for him to put a ring on it, please know that love is an action at times it is hard work. When you find yourself working outside of the home fulltime, caring for young children, trying to exercise, blog, cook, clean, pray, do laundry and take your four year-old to Jui Jitsu, it becomes challenging to find time to “work” on your marriage.

I have visited your blog a few times, but just recently started to read some archives. As a fellow blogger, posting away can really heal. My last blog was created during a real difficult time in my life. It’s amazing how one posting can touch so many. Even more so, how we can be so honest in what we share. I created a new blog but haven’t been committed, but more so cause I’m lazy.

Just wanted to send some Spelman Love and Hugs to you and your wonderful family.

I’m proud of you!

Whoever wrote this, thank you. I have been opening up a little this week, and it has been therapeutic. I started writing about my hip infection, going natural and them perming it, but there is so much more. The hip infection story part III is coming soon and so much more…

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4 Responses to “Thank You”

  1. Liz says:

    Hey lady – have been wondering what is going on with you. Sometimes, it really can be too hard to write what is going on, and seem too silly to write about what ISN’T going on. But I’ve been thinking about you, given all your life changes (Texas! Dude!) and all that.

    Hope all is well – you and the fam have been in our thoughts.

  2. Danni says:

    This post was honest, which I appreciate because sometimes everyone isn’t honest about how hard marriage is (loving and spiritual, but still hard work).

    On the friend…I have a similar issue with my bestie in that she didn’t talk to me for 2 years for something that I still to this day do not understand. All I can do is be open and receptive if she comes around. Blogging about it is good, maybe by putting it out there you can release it. “it is what it is” as they say in Philly 🙂

    Have a wonderful holiday 😉

  3. busybodyk says:

    I’m glad that you’re back. Texas is a loooong way from NY! What an adventure!

    I went through a “divorce” with my BFF a few years ago so I can relate. We were able to get back together and are better than ever. Like any relationship its work. Only you know if its worth it.

    Me and my hubs are going to Trinidad soon. If you have any tips on what I should do or see, please let me know 🙂

  4. Sheena says:

    I agree with Liz, I’m at that point where blogging in the moment is not my thing. When things boil over, maybe I’ll address them. We’re not in crisis…just mentally drained with life. When people ask how I’m doing, immediately I respond with “good” because of course I’d be explaining forever, lol. Congrats on your beautiful new home! I’m so happy for you guys!

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