I usually know who’s pregnant before the expecting couple even knows. I have this sense… it’s weird, but I know. And because of this, I pray for different people when I find out. Hubby and I have been through some very interesting experiences at this point in our lives, and I have chosen to be open about it. Three miscarriages, maybe not so typical, but I write about it. And because I write about it, other people write me. And call me, and talk to me. I hear about their miscarriages that they keep private, I hear when they have their first positive pregnancy test, and it’s a wonderful news to hear, and it’s wonderful they feel comfortable and trusting enough to share with me. But as I was saying, because I write about it, people write me back with their questions.
I recently received the following note in my blog inbox:
We have not gotten to speak at all since contact from the {name withdrawn} blog and email. I had a million questions for you about MLT and NYU (my first choice) then. I hadn’t started MLT yet then, but now we have gone through our first seminar at the end of last month. I know I don’t have to tell you how great it was- meeting my cohort, and new brothers and sisters on this journey ahead.
I now have a new concern though, and I thought of you. I’m not sure if you had your sons during business school or MLT. But I just found out that I’m pregnant. I am a very goal-oriented/keep-to-my-plans person so my automatic decision was to not keep it. My mom, boyfriend, and others are very excited and of course want me to keep it. I’m not sure now but I thought about the fact that I would be 5 months at the 2nd MLT seminar this July and 7 months at the 3rd one this Sept. Was anyone pregnant during the MLT process? Were you? How did that affect the MLT process and the business app process? How supportive was the MLT staff? In July we’ll meet all the admissions officers, and I don’t want that to affect my standing with them.
Anyway, I may not be pregnant the next time we speak, but I wanted to get your input.
I asked this young woman to call me, and surprisingly she did. It was date night, and I took the time I usually spend with hubby to share my thoughts with her. I told her it was my preference for all babies to live, and that it was wonderful that she had support, but ultimately she had an abortion. I wish she hadn’t, but that is now between her and God. I will say that I am glad to answer questions, but please know that I am a Christian and I support life. I will not provide a comforting ear so as to make you feel comfortable choosing death. I will advise you to pray, seek counsel and research the alternatives. My answer does not change person to person. I feel a certain responsibility to respond to notes and questions because I choose to place bits of me and life on the web, and because of that I am glad that she wrote me. I hope that as other bloggers honestly share themselves in this sphere, that they remain true to themselves and understand there is a little weight that you bear when people share their goals, their questions, their problems and what inspires them. I accept this, and tonight I wanted to share a little bit more about me and my beliefs in case I haven’t before.
